Over medium.
I think that generally one must be sensitive to others' practices. But there has to be room for criticism. There are many ways to make eggs. I think that any genuine attempt to connect to Hashem is valid. However, one can make the argument that there are better ways of doing something. I'll give you an example. I know many musicians. Some I've heard do their thing with total kavanah and focus. But the product is not that great. On the one hand they are putting their all into it. So that's great. It's saying more than the person who is on stage, doing it by heart without any personal investment. So on that level it is superior. There's a great story of the Bal Shem Tov who of course was a great tzadik. He was traveling past a small house where a simple Jew lived. The simple man noticed the Bal Shem Tov passing by and rushed out to meet him. Recognizing that he was a learned man, the simple man asked the Bal Shem Tov to show him the proper places to pray in the siddur. The Bal Shem Tov asked what he was currently praying. Not knowing anything, he said he starts at the beginning and just reads through to the end. The Bal Shem Tov honored his request and showed him the places to daven, where to stop, where to start again, marking the pages with little pieces of paper. When it was time for the Bal Shem Tov to move on, the man, siddur in hand, walked him outside thanking him profusely. The Bal Shem Tov was not quite out of sight when a strong wind came, it caught the pages of the siddur and blew the pieces out! The man was horrified - he screamed after the Bal Shem Tov who was by a stream and couldn't hear him. He took out a handkerchief and placed it on the water, stepped onto it and glided across. He continued a way until he heard the simple man screaming for him to stop from the other side of the river. The Bal Shem Tov watched as the simple man took a handkerchief out, placed it the water, stepped onto it and glided across. Finally reaching the Bal Shem Tov, he explained what had happened. The Bal Shem Tov asked "How did you do that?", "Do what?" asked the man. "How did you glide across the river on your handkerchief?" "I saw you take yours out, put it on the water and step onto it, so I took mine out and put it on the water and stepped on it as well." The Bal Shem Tov said "Go back to the way you were davening."
So it's clear that not everyone's avodah is the same. But the question is: is there a way a Jew should live. Reform, Conservative and Orthodox all say yes. Any Reform rabbi would tell a secular Jew that there are things he or she should or should not do according to their religion. What those dos and don'ts are, are debated, but there's no question that each has clearly defined restrictions and promotions.
What I am critical of is the fact that those restrictions and promotions changed, when they didn't have to - when they should not have. And I think there's tremendous spiritual value in that way of observing. I expect that Judaism adapts, but my criticism is that the Reform movement started a kind of adaptation that was more for the sake of earth than for heaven. I don't mean that they are bad, or that their intentions were bad - but they were and continue to base their changes on social developments and pressures. For instance, the Torah clearly prohibits a Jew from eating shrimp. When the Reform movement hosted a dinner in which shrimp was on the menu, there was a raucous. Why? Because it defined clearly that the Reform movement was not making changes because the changes were necessary - but because they had deemed much of Jewish practice as valueless.
Wikipedia states that the reform movement "challenged many traditionalist Jewish doctrines, adapted or eliminated practices, and introduced its own theological and communal innovations." My contention is that it shouldn't have.
The motivation for the creation of the movement was to preserve Judaism. But it was a knee jerk reaction which ultimately created a movement which I feel extracts meaningful, deeply important doctrines, beliefs and practices in the name of progress and modernity, leaving Judaism far, far removed from what it once was and should be. It's good that these young Jews are gathering to observe shabbat in their way - I mean it - but they're doing it because their watered down versions of Judaism have failed them. Their doing it for the same reason I have become more observant. The number of Orthodox Jews who are finding their way there due to overly restrictive orthodoxy, I feel confident saying, pales in comparison to the number of Jews who have been let down by their reform and conservative due to lack of depth and in many cases empty practice.
It would have been amazing if all the cousins stayed at aunt Julies and observed an orthodox shabbat. There would have been many of those instances where we'd all pile on top of one another and just talked, played games... talked! It's something I missed this time around, because there were too many distractions. Shabbat binds family and community together in that way. So for me it's not about being tolerant of the other sects in the same way I'm tolerant of other religions. I hope I've made it clear that I am. But I'm comfortable saying I think it would be better for Jews if we'd all practice the way we did prior to the reform movement.
D
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So it's clear that not everyone's avodah is the same. But the question is: is there a way a Jew should live. Reform, Conservative and Orthodox all say yes. Any Reform rabbi would tell a secular Jew that there are things he or she should or should not do according to their religion. What those dos and don'ts are, are debated, but there's no question that each has clearly defined restrictions and promotions.
What I am critical of is the fact that those restrictions and promotions changed, when they didn't have to - when they should not have. And I think there's tremendous spiritual value in that way of observing. I expect that Judaism adapts, but my criticism is that the Reform movement started a kind of adaptation that was more for the sake of earth than for heaven. I don't mean that they are bad, or that their intentions were bad - but they were and continue to base their changes on social developments and pressures. For instance, the Torah clearly prohibits a Jew from eating shrimp. When the Reform movement hosted a dinner in which shrimp was on the menu, there was a raucous. Why? Because it defined clearly that the Reform movement was not making changes because the changes were necessary - but because they had deemed much of Jewish practice as valueless.
Wikipedia states that the reform movement "challenged many traditionalist Jewish doctrines, adapted or eliminated practices, and introduced its own theological and communal innovations." My contention is that it shouldn't have.
The motivation for the creation of the movement was to preserve Judaism. But it was a knee jerk reaction which ultimately created a movement which I feel extracts meaningful, deeply important doctrines, beliefs and practices in the name of progress and modernity, leaving Judaism far, far removed from what it once was and should be. It's good that these young Jews are gathering to observe shabbat in their way - I mean it - but they're doing it because their watered down versions of Judaism have failed them. Their doing it for the same reason I have become more observant. The number of Orthodox Jews who are finding their way there due to overly restrictive orthodoxy, I feel confident saying, pales in comparison to the number of Jews who have been let down by their reform and conservative due to lack of depth and in many cases empty practice.
It would have been amazing if all the cousins stayed at aunt Julies and observed an orthodox shabbat. There would have been many of those instances where we'd all pile on top of one another and just talked, played games... talked! It's something I missed this time around, because there were too many distractions. Shabbat binds family and community together in that way. So for me it's not about being tolerant of the other sects in the same way I'm tolerant of other religions. I hope I've made it clear that I am. But I'm comfortable saying I think it would be better for Jews if we'd all practice the way we did prior to the reform movement.
D
From: Aaron
To: David Kopp
Sent: Fri, 30 Nov 2007 9:20 am
Subject: Re: shalom
acceptance that this is a viable and legitimate alternative, even if its not one that you personally believe in
to me (and this is no comment on you, but on "orthodox" religions in general) this insistence that "my way is the only right/correct way" is very childish. What's the right way to make eggs?
to me (and this is no comment on you, but on "orthodox" religions in general) this insistence that "my way is the only right/correct way" is very childish. What's the right way to make eggs?
On Nov 30, 2007 12:16 PM, David Kopp wrote:
K now define "tolerance" and I'll see if I can explain why I do or don't have it.Sent: Fri, 30 Nov 2007 9:09 am
Subject: Re: shalom
nontraditional practices? reform, conservative, any other stream of judaism
On Nov 30, 2007 11:47 AM, David Kopp <dav@aol.com> wrote:mmmmmm eggies!
I'm going there in a tanktop and thong, but I'm bringing a bowl, flour and a whisk. Wanna join me with a skillet and hotplate?By the way, what other nontraditional practices?
Sent: Fri, 30 Nov 2007 7:32 am
Subject: Re: shalom
I love what you wrote. I wish you would apply the same tolerance to acceptance of other nontraditional practices.
Speaking of traditional practices that we both love:
Ultra-Orthodox warn tourists away from Mea Shearim over Hanukkah
Local haredi extremists plan to attack tourists who traditionally flood ultra-Orthodox neighborhoods over the Hanukkah season by throwing eggs and dirty diapers at them. The Jerusalem neighborhood of Mea Shearim and the town of Beit Shemesh, which house thousands of strictly observant Jews, plan to enforce their edict beginning on Tuesday, the first day for lighting Hanukkah candles. Some 80 volunteers are ready to pelt curious, photo-snapping tourists who, according to members of the religious sect, often arrive immodestly dressed and disrupt their festivities. "I do not want my children to see such a thing. What do I live in Mea Shearim for?", one resident told Ynetnews.
On Nov 30, 2007 4:15 AM, David Kopp <dav@aol.com > wrote:"Unfortunately" you don't know me well enough to know what my answer would be! I don't think it's regrettable at all. It's not "so bad!" I mean, they're not going out to the movies for crying out loud - they're honoring Hashem and each other as Jews on Friday night! It's fantastic. Now, I happen to like a quiet shabbat, and happen to think there's something magical about that - it's really the same thing except for the guitar! Does Hashem love what they're doing, WITH the guitar? Yep! I believe so. Would Hashem like it more without the guitar? Maybe! It's certainly more meaningful to me that there's nobody playing an instrument at my services and all I hear are voices. But ultimately it doesn't really concern me. You know, I heard a religious woman made a really interesting point recently. She was a president of a chapter of N.O.W., still is a member - she was asked by a liberal friend of mine: Do you think it's sexist that a woman is not allowed to read from the Torah? Isn't that unfair to women? And she said: If a woman wants to read from the Torah - power to her. Let her go find a place where she can read. I don't want to, and I want to be respected for my decision not to. Tonight a religious woman said to me that there are things she doesn't want to be a part of - the running of the shul, the leading of the service - she expressed thanks that she didn't have to do all the things that men do because it frees her up to do the things she prefers to do, like take care of the kids. I don't fault women for wanting to read from the Torah - like Ali - I fault the ones that call Orthodox sexist because in that system women don't read from the Torah. And I don't fault any of those young Jews davening the way they do, but I do fault the ones that pass judgment on Orthodoxy because that's not OUR way. I happen to think that way is a better way - but you happen to think the other way is better. Since the qualifying factor is ones own experience, we are relatively in the same position. My only lament is that their way of paying tribute to Hashem is a modification of something that was always beautiful in the first place, and needed no modification. That's what so many of my BT friends have experienced - that silent shabbat. But bottom line, it doesn't bother me, and I'm glad they're doing it - I just wish (like everyone else) that they did and understood it my way!
d
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From: Aaron
To: David Kopp <dav@aol.com>
Sent: Thu, 29 Nov 2007 3:01 pm
Subject: shalom
Read this with an open mind. I ask, rhetorically (not for purposes of debate -- unfortunately, I know your answer :P): Is this so bad? Is this really not a valid, encourageable expression of judaism? Is there really only one right way? My gut says no. I find it hard to believe God does not approve, especially considering that traditional methods (see article) clearly don't work for these people. Especially given the options: no connection to Judaism or finding a personalized derech, it is impossible for me to conceive of this as anything but positive. Consider this next time you evaluate other streams of judaism.
Much love. I miss you already.
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/28/us/28minyan.html?ei=5087&em=&en=4d239e472d05d25e&ex=1196485200&pagewanted=print
